It is important, therefore, that the relief home and the foster home communicate clearly and sensitively with one another. Sometimes an element of competition or jealousy enters into the adult relationships - only the child suffers if this goes unchecked. Foster and relief homes work best together when there is an element of trust and respect between them: that is only built through communication.
There are times when children ‘honeymoon’ at a relief home; that is, the relief home may not see a lot of the negative acting out that occurs within the full-time home. While it is tempting to believe that this is due to the expertise of the relief home, most often it is because the child is able to put the ‘emotional’ work to rest for the weekend - thus, less behaviour! It is also seen as a fun weekend to go on ‘overnights’.
Please note that we DO NOT
refer to these weekends as ‘relief’ with the children. Also, the driving back and forth is shared between both homes and is not reimbursed.